i cant really find any youtube videos explaining if i should one or the other, ... or both?
What are you guys using?
I have to believe you are really confused now so perhaps this will help:
The 1st, and primary process in creating a high dynamic range image is to combine a set of bracketed exposures, preferably in RAW format, the range of which exceeds the camera's ability to capture in a single exposure. The HDR software, using complex algorithms and decisions, takes some data out of each of the raw files (usually 16 bit depth) and combines that data into a single 32 bit file. That 32 bit file exceeds the dynamic range of monitors and printers and thus can not be properly display in that format (they look ugly). That's where part 2 of the process comes in.
The tones in the 32 bit high dynamic range image are redistributed or tonemapped into a 16 bit or 8 bit range. HDR s/w will provide one or more modules which you can use to accomplish the task. Each module is specialized to offer certain controls that render different results. So take Photomatix for example. The fusion module strives to achieve natural results. The Fusion module "fuses" the source files and provides you with a capability to emphasize over or underexposed images but then most of the controls adjust Low Dynamic Range, like brightness, contrast, etc.
The Detail Enhancer takes a different approach. Here you have additional controls that affect the high dynamic range. The strength slider allows you to darken the highlights while brightening the shadows resulting in tonal inversions. You can adjust microcontrast to intensify small detail. You can induce some interesting artistic and artistic effects. Which module you use depends on your end goals for the image. The tone compressor module achieves yet another goal. Some HDR s/w onlly offer you a single module but they include in that single module, controls which affect the high and low dynamic range.
Regards, Murray